Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Finding Motivation (or Not)


I have become far more efficient these days. It still amazes me how much more of a home “manager” I am today, then I was when I was single, or even when Jason and I first got married. I mean seriously, the house was ALWAYS a disaster (except for the very, very rare occasion I got a wild hair to clean it), I could not make it to work with my hair done and makeup on, and I was rarely on time to well, anywhere. I was a mess!!!

Now my life looks much different. Our house is not spotless, but is definitely drop-in company ready 90% of the time. I have a morning routine that includes putting makeup on down to a tee, and can have Lane and I out the door in less than in hour, with both of us completely ready for the day.  Many things have contributed to this. One was the absolutely need to be more together when I had Lane, because he brought a beautiful chaos to our life that made me CRAVE the routine of it all. Then came reading numerous blogs, many teary jags with me asking why EVERYONE had it together and I could not do anything (I tend to be a bit of a drama queen when I am in a funk), and a ton of trial and error.

But, the biggest battle I continue to fight is finding the motivation to keep doing the day-to-day mundane tasks that make life run smoother. I have one epiphany like way I find motivation, and that was reminding myself why I was doing the task. For example, Why am I going to work? To make  money, to get out of debt and to have money to do fun activities with my guys. Why am I doing the dishes? Because it means Jason does not have to come home to a messy kitchen, he does not have to do them, and we have plates to eat off of for the dinner that Jason will cook, since I still can’t/don’t. I can find good, motivating reasons for all of the tasks on my “to do list”. If I cannot find them, then I do not make time for the activity. Answering the why of it all, typically gets me off my innately lazy butt and I do the mundane, but necessary tasks.

But, this does not always work for me, as I have a huge, immeasurable propensity to be so lazy!!! So today, I had less of an epiphany moment, but an equally motivating moment when I realized that sometimes I have to “just do it”, as the famous Nike Slogan goes. I have to remember that I will not always be able to feel excited about completing the tasks. Sometimes the why of it all does not get me moving, and I just have to get up and do. So then I got up and well, wrote this blog, because avoidance (you know choosing a less important, more fun, but equally productive activity over the essential activity) is still a pretty big issue I need to tackle. Of course I will leave that for another day (says my inner procrastinator), because I really only feel equipped to take on one character flaw at a time.

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